A-Words: the Anxiety Series
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
I need to accept the things I cannot change. Mr. Sensitive’s diagnosis. Little Miss Adorable’s diagnosis. I cannot change their DNA. I cannot cure Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy or Prader-Willi Syndrome. I know this.
I need the courage to change the things I can. I can make life richer and focus on quality of life, rather than ‘Chasing Normal.’ If I celebrate the little things, the big things fall into place.
Sometimes this means saying ‘no’ to too much stuff, too many appointments, and too much work. I feel a life with less in it leaves room for more –more time with the kids, more time to cook healthy food, more time to enjoy life.
Sometimes the only thing I can change is my mind – I can find happiness in watching my son play with other kids in a doctor’s waiting room. If I appreciate his happiness I will be happier.
I need to kvell over my children’s laugher, tears, and miracles.
I love the word kvell – Merriam Webster tells us the word “kvell” is derived from Yiddish “kveln,” meaning “to be delighted,” and before that implied “to take pride in or rejoice.” Kvell is verb meaning “to be extraordinarily proud or rejoice,” often parents over kvell over their child’s accomplishments.
I am hoping for the wisdom to know the difference.
How do I know what I can change and what I can’t if I don’t try?
I can kvell over the little things in life. Then the big things fall into place.
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