Recently, my son Mr. Sensitive had a birthday party for his kindergarten friends. He was highly anxious. Mr. Sensitive clung to me, buried his head in my side and thrashed himself around. One of the boys said, “Here, you can sit beside me.” When Mr. Sensitive sat down the boy leaned over and kissed my son’s arm.
This gesture means the world to me. This four year-old demonstrated deep affection and complete acceptance of my son’s weirdness and bizarre behaviour. This boy has seen my son fall countless times and helped him up. They play together at school.
This boy has seen my son struggle to recognize letters and print. This boy has seen the teaching assistants who help my son and he knows my son never takes the stairs at school, but rides the elevator instead. He knows my son is different.
And this boy is ok with that.
During the party these boys played together on the floor, orchestrating toy cars and trucks. One of the fathers called them Batman and Robin. No one seemed concerned about the kiss.
But I wonder, what will happen next year or the year after?
Are boys still allowed to kiss each other?
I’m pretty sure not. The social stigma of not doing ‘boy things’ takes over their lives. I’m not sure who decides what ‘boy things’ and ‘girl things’ are. If you know, I’d like to have a talk with them.
I’d like to tell them boys need to show affection for each other, and that boys have feelings too.
Why are we not ok with this?
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