Hubby, Me and ADHD: Honey, have you seen my….
I have known my husband since 1999 and we have been involved since 2002. We started off as best friends, then became romantically involved. Amazingly we are still best friends. He is funny, charming and a truly decent human being. He also has ADHD.
In Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) the areas of the brain responsible for directing and selecting attention do not work well. Imagine a small robot that is acting as a traffic cop in your brain, directing information in, sending it for further storage (memory) or thinking about (processing). Now imagine that the robot stalls every couple minutes. So information gets missed – that is the traffic robot did not direct it into your brain for further processing. Even if that piece of information is “But I told you my parents were coming over!” The robot also goes on the fritz every few minutes and gets stuck trying to direct ‘non-essential’ information in. This could include fixating on the airplane flying by or the construction workers busy operating a crane. Normally non-essential information is not a problem, it is directed in and then out again. Someone with ADHD gets stuck on the non-essential information and misses out on the important stuff.
So hubby is driving the car and I am telling him that my parents are coming over tomorrow. Hubby sees an airplane circling the airport and begins to think about the flight pattern. Hubby says, yeah, uh-uh at key points in the conversation. Actually, it’s a monologue, because I’m doing the talking and he’s not saying anything else, just looking at the airplane. Looks like that robot is stuck. Important information did not make it in, and non-essential information is flooding.
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